A lesson in judgement

This morning I watched one of the most emotional videos I have ever seen.

How many times do we judge others by their looks? How many times do we make judgments about people by the way they speak, by the lives they have led, by the cut of their hair, or by the image they portray.

Watch this.... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9lp0IWv8QZY

What would the world be like if we, for one day, didn't judge a single person we came across? Did not make assumptions about others behaviours or their actions. What if, for one day we all chose interact with love, joy, believing that every person has a talent that we might just be surprised about.

Bravo Susan Boyle, you have taught us all a lesson; a wonderful lesson for all our children.

The World Needs Wise Mothers

With age comes wisdom. Wisdom that needs to be passed down from those who have acquired it, to those who seek it.

Women who are mothers have acquired wisdom throughout their lives; the wisdom of life and experience, heartache and love, laughter and tears and triumphs and tragedies.

Our children need , mothers who are willing to not be liked in order to guide them to make the right decisions and choices about their lives.

Our children don’t need 40 year old best friends, they need the guidance, understanding, compassion and unconditional love.

The messages they are continuously receiving are so mixed and confusing. On the one hand there are messages coming from educators, telling our children they can ‘be anything they want to be’, work and study hard to achieve success in any career they choose.

Then they are confronted daily with messages from the media selling images… magazines with ridiculously thin and totally unreal photos of young girls, DVD music clips that are more about sex than music, fashions that so revealing nobody other than a 10 year old can wear them and look respectable. Music stars whose lyrics demean women and paint pictures of sexually dominant men. No wonder there is confusion.

Its at this time, our children need wise mothers to help guide them through their world.

Mothers who value their health, their intellect, their contribution to the world, their ability to make a difference, their relationships and their spirituality.

Mothers who believe that authentic loving relationships are worked at and honoured. Who believe in the power of love and forgiveness, tough love and honesty. Mothers who through their intuition and insight hold the dream for their children. Not to manipulate it, but to allow the child to become whole through it.

This blog is for all the wise mothers in the world. To share wise thoughts, wise strategies and wise words for us all to share.

I invite you to be a part of this blog, to share you wise thoughts.

A little about me… I have three children; a son and two daughters. All are successfully carving their way in the world, but it hasn’t always been easy, and although the relationship with my children is wonderful, there have been times when it has been strained and I have had to be the ‘worst mother in the world’ … in fact numerous times a bedroom door has slammed shut, preceded by the words “No other mother does that!!!!”

I didn’t have an easy relationship with my mother. I was a very typical 1970’s rebellious teenager trying to break free from the constraints of a religious all girls school. My mother was a gentle kind woman who had worked hard and gave up a lot to raise five achieving children, giving them all the opportunities my father and she could afford… which were very few.

So I decided that I wanted an honest and open relationship with my children… that was until they became teenagers,and I realised that they in fact did not need an ‘open’ relationship with me. They needed boundaries and love.

Sometimes they don’t like me very much, and that’s ok. Because I don’t think it is appropriate for my 15 year old daughter to go to parties where I know there is going to be alcohol, or that I expect that my 20+ son and daughter who are still living at home, contribute a portion of their part time salary to cover board, or that I expect them to hang out clothes or help do the dishes.

So if that makes me unpopular, well there you go. But that’s being a wise mother, not a ‘cool’ mother